Stefanos is Shay’s dominant partner, and in this clip he gives a personal account of some of the feelings he had when she first started doing self-suspension. “Rope had never really tugged my heartstrings,” he says, and so he felt excluded and shut out from her play. By taking responsibility for his own experience, though, he was able to find a way to constructively participate as a spotter with her, and this can serve as a model for your own spotters as you explore self-suspension.