"There is nothing sexier than a person who owns their desires and isn't afraid to express them. Confidence is the ultimate aphrodisiac and is incredibly alluring. I also enjoy intellectual stimulation, sensual touches, emotional intimacy and passionate kisses." So said Addyson James, a 44-year-old cougar who lives in sunny Arizona. Addyson grew up on a dairy farm in Vermont. She was a cheerleader in high school and ran cross-country. She enjoys hanging out with her dog, working out and trying new restaurants. "I was an aesthetician and laser technician for 20-plus years," she said. "Prior to that, I served in the U.S. Navy for five years. I served during 9-11." Thank you for your service, Addyson. And now, thank you for your hot body. 40Something: Do you masturbate often? Addyson: Yes. Masturbation is not just a private indulgence. It's an art form. I revel in the pleasure of my own touch, exploring every curved and sensitive spot with the expertise that only comes from knowing…