So if consent is a “persistent and fluctuating state”, why shouldn’t you be one, too? Thista talks in this clip about the idea that we are all in “states of change” in terms of our kink skills, such as “pre-contemplation”, “making a plan”, and “constant maintenance” (just to name a few). It’s a new paradigm for your ability to play with kink, and a valuable perspective for enjoying the edgier kinds of play.